Beware lovers that you will be having oppostion for your love not only from your parents, relatives or the moral police but from whole India or the whole world. This statement is in result of the live program which I watched in Aaj Tak channel last week. The whole debate was revolving around a young woman who got married but could not forget the guy whom she loved. Now her in-laws and her husband are taking steps to unite her with her lover. She is not ready to go to her mother's house inspite of repeated request from her brother to come and visit the family once. The thing that annoyed me much was that a sms poll was conducted that whether she need to marry her lover or to live with her husband. The conversation between her and her brother was telecasted live on air and the anchor was telling her that the people's choice which reflected in the sms polls was that she should live with her husband. Huh!!! Who are they (we) to decide with whom she has to live. I do not know how and why did she accepted the proposal of Aaj tak channel to talk about her and telecast it live on air. The peeking business of all these news channels are just crossing the limits or should I say it have crossed it limits already. They make nonsense news on everything. They should be tamed atleast now else the fifth pillar of democracy will be having no value to lose in the future.

P.S: I now agree with my grand father that we should watch only the DD news to avoid banging the head with all these crap.

I went to beauty parlour for the first time in my life when I was in my final year of my college in the year 2004 with a huge support from my grand mother(he he he ). My mother was against me in going to parlour for making up my eye brows and when I came home with my eyeybrows tweezed the sudden reply from my mother was " You are making your face ugly! " .But as today I could notice even a small kid knows much better than what I know and how to carry themselves to a very certain extent. Indeed we all want ourselves to look beautiful. I have seen many envying on the models and heroines who come in the advertisements and films and want to shine like them. The beauty consciousness has increased a lot in our country and starting from the house maids to the IT engineers go to parlours to make themselves look beautiful. That is a welcome trend but again the thought of the people to be too much emerged in this is something that worries me a lot. This trend has there again created a mindset among the young people that only fair girls are respected. The credit goes to variety of advertisements starting from fair and lovely to fair ever. Surprisingly we now have fair creams even to the boys. I agree that we should refine ourselves in everything we do including our appearance but that doesnt mean that beauty lies only in the fair colour or good figure. People who have made a mark in all the arena are beautiful in their hearts. This is another form of colour discrimination that is being followed right from a child is born. When a child is born the first thing the relatives look about is the gender of the child and next the colour of the child if it is a baby girl. And this again creates an impediment in the mind of a girl child when a normal indian wheatish girl is being teased for not fair. An average Indian middle class and poor girls still find it difficult to find grooms due to their colour composure and its high time this attitude should be changed. Girls should not think themeselves to be inferior since selecting our natural colour and composure is not with us. It is something what we are gifted with and we should be proud for what we are rather than mourning for what we are not. Least we are blessed with good physical features and think about the blind, deaf and dumb and people who are physically challenged. I could say that the smile of this lady is 100 million times attractive than the smile of millions of beautiful girls. I could sense a feel of satisfaction and innocence in her eyes and a feeling of motherliness in her. Next time when you are teased about your colour and structure be sure to ask " Yes, So I am and does it in anyway bothers you? ".

(This post is to build confidence to many of our girls like one of my friend who worries a lot about her colour and being teased for it even by her mother )

That was not my fault. People still throw stones at me and scold me for what I didnt do. I was just made a prey to their actions. That was a very bad day in my life and I feel the sense of guilt in me even though I could not do anything to stop it from happening. I still remember that bright sunny day on 16th October 1799. The clock ticked and he was called up by the sepoys to get ready. He looked upon the soldiers with his intriguing eyes and a calm smile broadened in his face. He stood reluctantly and tried to make up things in his mind on what he has to address to his people. He was brought near me and he looked upon me and the rope in which he is going to be hanged. He turned round and his brave voice broke open the helpless-silence of the people. His last words were " Oh, My people look upon. This is not the end; this is just a beginning and the dawn is very near." Even then it took almost 148 years for this wonderful country to cherish the dawn what he is speaking about. And with those brave words he was hanged to death when his grief-strucken people watched him in absolute silence. Tears rolled down from the eyes of the people and the words 'BRAVO KATTABOMMA!!! of a young chap pierced open the silence of the people. I could not still bear the fact that being a tamarind tree I am useful to people in all the ways I can and they found out one more way to use me!!!

The history repeats itself again on 8th April 1857 when Mangal Pandey was hanged at 5.30 P.M. in the presence of all assembled troops in Barrackpore, Calcutta. The only difference is it was a banyan tree.

Gone are the days when the government job was considered to be a criteria for selecting the bridegroom. But it still has its own value apart from the attractive salary, pension and P.F benefits. Today private employee's earn 100% more than the government servant and to many extent he has to strive hard to sustain his job whereas the govenment job for a public servant is more secured when compared to the private employee. I wonder these days after watching so many current scenarios that why the public servants are not ready to do their allocated work and ask people to bribe. We(incuding me) never agitated against this and whatever done by few people like Anna Hazare remains unnoticed. The common man never raise his voice on this issue since he has to face this government servant again and again for his so many needs starting from birth certificate to death certificate. If atleast they do 75 % of their allocated work that will be seriously a dramatic change in the side of administration and lot of changes could be predictable in our society. I know that they are many public servants like my grand father and father who were devoted to their work. That again is a very less quantity and it cannot make any drastic changes and this has to be implemented right from the grass root level. The morality among the mind set of the people has to be triggered right from their childhood and untill then the current scene continues..

Marriage is the word that is driving me crazy these days. Everyone starting from my friends to relatives gives me lecture about the good side of the marriage and I know that is not always a side to be noted. It's sure that it also has other side and I am not concerned about that. I still do not know what I need from life or what I should do in my life. I am lost in lots of confusion and I could not say exactly what I need or what I dnt need. Moreover that person has to bear all my stupidity for his whole life and that is still more difficult I guess . I definitely know the essence of marriage and I never deny that. I know its high time I should start thinking about this but unless and untill I get prepared for it I could not take a steady decision. I could not take any decision in haste and mourn in later part of my life. I used to have battle of words with my cousins who are married and they used to advice me that there is some joy and bliss amidst all the problems . My immediate reply to them is that there is only one way to be happily married & when I find that, I shall get married! :-)

Let me see where this life is going to take me in terms of marriage and till then I will be exploring my part of life in my own way.

In my 25 years of life span I have never struggled for food. I never felt what hunger is. My parents and grand parents took care of me in my early days and I have my own earnings today. Everything comes in time on the table. Breakfast at 9, lunch at 1 and diner at 8. Have read about famine and drought in history and geography which are my favorite subjects in school. Never felt its impact so much unless I saw a man searching something in sewerage and it was a packet of rice which was almost soaked with sewage water. I thought he will wash it somewhere and will have it, but to my surprise he started eating it without cleaning . I read about famine crisis in Somalia and farmers committing suicide in India in news papers. India was affected by strong famine for almost 14 times and the most worst happening was in the year 1943 when almost 3 million people died. To my knowledge this wave was prevalent in Gujarath even in the year 1983. Now we could sort out the reasons for all these famine crisis or the food crisis of many millions in our country and statistics also will help us and I have no doubt we could write for almost 100 pages or even more about it. But what is the next step and what I(we) can do stands foremost rather than digging out the details behind it. Whenever I go for shopping in T.Nagar or anywhere near my locality I never give a penny to the beggars and I used to ask them whether they would like to have something for which many refuse. One incident I remember when I went to shopping with Ramya in Pondy Bazaar where one old woman came near us when we were having ice cream and asked for alms for which we refused and the next moment she asked us to buy and give her an ice cream for which we obliged. That was pretty surprising for us and we were glad to see her licking ice cream like a child. Afer all we earn for our stomach!!!